Wifey’s & Gentlemen,
I must admit that I love giving advice!
While I will never claim that my advice is always spot on or that I am always right, I know that I have a unique perspective to offer and I will always tell you the truth (with your best interest in mind🧠 + at heart♥️).
That being said, a VERY long time ago, when I first started writing this blog and had an audience of two, I wrote about my 12 Rules for Successful Dating.
The work was pretty solid for the time , but I have grown a lot in 8 years; so much has changed.
Not only have I been out of the dating game for 10 years now, I have a much deeper understanding of the psychology behind dating, love, and attraction.
[stay with me, I promise this is going somewhere]
Because of this, I am trying to find fun and engaging ways to reboot some of my old content for 2022 and beyond.
I love myself more.
I think more critically.
I survived my 20s relatively unscathed.
+ I am living some of the best years of my life.
Of course, I plan on releasing a new set of dating “rules” sometime in the very near future.
Today I’d like to write about relationship rules.
Relationship rules are the core beliefs you and your partner share that keep yourselves in love and connected. They help couples to create boundaries and prioritize each other’s needs when + where appropriate.
What’s awesome about these rules is there is no “one size fits all”.
Every couple gets to decide what rules they’d like to follow, understanding that some of these will change and/or fade with time.
For me, it’s important that I know that the love in my relationship is unconditional.
While this doesn’t mean that me and Mr.B can just do whatever we want with unlimited forgiveness, it does mean that we are both allowed to make mistakes without feeling like love is going to be revoked, threatened or held hostage.
Honestly, I believe that most healthy relationships have this value at their core.
I don’t say that to pat ourselves on the back.
For anyone who might be new here, you’ll quickly learn that Mr.B + I are not perfect [and we are very well aware].
Sometimes I raise my voice.
Sometimes we bicker.
Sometimes I forget not to correct him all the time.
Sometimes he isn’t very assertive.
Sometimes we are distant and disconnected.
He’s busy. I’m tired.
Round and round it goes.
But what I can say is, even when times are more ebb and less flow, we find our way back to our rules, our foundation. We remember that we promised each other unconditional love, protection, and safety.
We remember that we both deserve to be in relationships that make us happy.
Once again, I know it might seem lame or awkward to sit down with your partner and talk this through, but I’m going to ask you to try.
It doesn’t have to be heavy or humorless.
It doesn’t have to be recorded or notarized.
Maybe it’s a bottle of wine, your favorite delivery, and a candid conversation on what it means for you both to be happy.
Maybe it’s a long drive to nowhere.
Find a way to create an authentic space for the communication to flow, and like any good artist, create.
So, what do you think?
Is this something you’d try?
Have you done this already? Anyone out there brave enough to share some of your relationship rules with the fam?
I hope you all have a fantastic, long weekend!
I’ll be spending some time with friends, working O.T, and trying to get some content edited for next week. [In between parenting and adulting, of course].
Until next time,
Carry on wifeys + gents!
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