Wifeys & Gentlemen,
Happy Valentines Day!
Whether you’re celebrating with a lover, friends, family, or indulging in some much needed self-love, I hope you do something today that fills your soul and makes your heart smile. 🥰
Side Note: One year, when I was single, I bought 2 bottles of wine, made an amazing lasagna for dinner and a brownie sundae for dessert, took a long bubble bath, and binge-watched my favorite horror movies. I could not have asked for a better evening! I highly recommend this if you’re alone and short on ideas.
*add your own spin, of course*
Recently, one of my younger readers sent me a DM and asked if it was a good idea to go on a first date on Valentines Day.
After giving it some careful thought, I don’t think there is anything wrong with it at all! If you avoid the pitfalls and watch out for red flags, you might be surprised to find that you have a wonderful time!
For some of us, being single on Valentines Day is no big deal. There are so many ways to celebrate love that don’t have anything to do with romance! However, we all know our fair share of people who would love nothing more than to share their evening with someone special, and to my single readers who have been frantically swiping right on Tinder all week, you might find yourself agreeing to go on a first date; Valentines Addition! 💝
Is this a bad idea?
If done correctly, a V-Day first date can be just like any other date, with a little bit of chocolate and cheesy pink/red hearts mixed in. If you meet someone and agree to go out on Valentines Day, remember these tips:
- Make sure both of you are on the same page and agree not to make a big deal of things. It’s a first date so you don’t want to feel too much pressure. Sure, it’s Valentines Day and you’ll be surrounded by in-theme romance, but as long as you both can agree not to put too much meaning into the date, you’ll be just fine.
- Keep gifts and gestures simple (or just don’t do them at all). If you want to surprise your date with a small box of candy or a pretty flower, great! But remember, you are not in a serious relationship. It’s only the first date. Don’t go all out or come on too strong or you’ll risk making your date feel uncomfortable.
- Avoid restaurants with the fancy pre-fixe menus. Most of those dinners are for (more) serious couples who are prepared to enjoy 3+ courses together (& pay a hefty fee). If you don’t know this person well, you might find it hard to sit through a long, romantic dinner with them. Heaven forbid you discover you’re not compatible or don’t enjoy spending time together. Plus, you likely don’t have a grasp on your dates likes and dislikes and it’s risky to go to a pre-fixe dinner where he/she can’t choose what food they’d like to eat.
- Plan a fun, unique date that takes the attention off of Valentines Day. Amusement parks, hiking, action and/or horror movies, cocktails, dancing, museums, comedy club, group dates with friends, fondue or fun cuisines; all of these are good examples of non-traditional Valentines dates that aren’t overtly focused on love and romance.
- Leave the cheesy, pressure filled Valentines Day stuff to the more seasoned couples. This is not an insult or meant to be condescending! If you want to go out on Valentines Day but haven’t found “your person” yet, that’s fine! But don’t expect to have an elaborate, romantic evening that leads to lasting love and marriage. Keep your expectations the same as you would on any other day. *unless you meet someone who wants to do something grand and elaborate with you…then I say go at your own risk*
So, what do you think? Would you go out on a first date for Valentines Day? Have you ever tried it? Let me know your thoughts in the comments and feel free to share your stories and help your fellow wifeys & gents out with your awesome advice!
This year, Mr.B and I will be keeping things mellow (as we do most years). We don’t like going out on Valentines Day (too crowded, too expensive) but we’ll likely get into dinner and a movie on Saturday night and exchange some small gifts; Mr. B owes me a trip to Sees Candies for a refill on some delicious chocolates. 🍫
How will you be celebrating this year? Let me know what you guys get up to!
Until next time,
Carry on Wifeys & Gents!
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