Wifeys & Gentlemen,
As I sit here trying to get this overdue video finished and posted, I was reminded that we are about a week away from Valentine’s Day. If you’ve been reading the blog for a while, you might already know that my husband and I are chill about this particular hallmark holiday. We neither hate it nor take it too seriously and do our best to “celebrate” either the weekend before or after (we hate unnecessary crowds haha).
As someone who can “take it or leave it” when it comes to celebrating with my man, I wanted to send this special PSA as I reflect on Valentine’s Days past. I remember times when I felt so differently; when my experience with Valentine’s Day made me feel small, insignificant, and unloved. I often wonder how some people in relationships don’t already know this, but…here it goes:
- If you’re someone who just absolutely hates this holiday and all of the commercial, stereotypical versions of “love” that is typically represents
- If you’re someone who doesn’t see the point in spending money or making special plans just because of a date on a calendar
- If you’re someone who’d rather just get rid of the stupid day all together; someone who’d prefer to eliminate the pressure associated with it…
I am here to tell you that is is completely okay to simply not be interested in Valentine’s Day.
Should you be one of those lucky (or maybe unlucky, depending on who you ask) few that has a partner who is into the holiday; please do me a favor and just play along. Ok?
It is ONE day out of three-hundred and sixty-five.
If it means something to your partner then just suck it up and make an effort because you know it’ll make them happy. Buy a little cheesy gift, cook or order a nice meal, and have some fun, weeknight sex without dramatics or complaints.
Look, I know that in the past I’ve told you guys to never compromise who you are. Your partner should love you for you and I really do mean that. But again, it’s ONE day. One silly, cheesy holiday that your partner might look forward to because they need to be reminded that you care.
It doesn’t have to be elaborate or over the top, and if you are with someone who is expecting you to produce diamonds and a horse-drawn carriage on a short budget, it might be time to have a different conversation.
But for the rest of us regular people, this day can be something that shows your person that you love them and are grateful for everything they do.
I hate to be “that girl” here, but need I remind you that we are going on WHOLE YEAR of being caught in a pandemic?
Anxiety, depression, loneliness, hopelessness, and fear are at an all time high. If there was ever a time to step outside of your usual ways and into the shoes of your partner, it’s now.
If you and your partner are both “meh” about the day, then ignore me! Don’t start forcing something that neither of you actually care to do. But, if you’re reading this and you KNOW for a fact that your partner would actually love the idea of some sweet, romantic gestures (despite your typical ambivalance), then do the right thing and get on board! There is nothing ‘typical’ about the past year; no harm in stepping outside of your norm and doing something to bring your loved one(s) joy.
Conversely, if you’re both super into the holiday, or if you want to do something but are struggling to get ideas, stay tuned for this week’s podcast episode where Mr.B and I talk about all things Valentine’s Day! Maybe you’ll get inspired! 😉
*sidenote: if you’re single and feel like you want to celebrate but don’t have a special someone right now, remember that Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love <3.
YOU BETTER love yourself enough to treat your fine ass to something extra special!
You can also celebrate your pets, friends, family, or a crush you haven’t had the nerve to talk to just yet! This silly holiday is for everyone. Never let anyone tell you differently.
Until next time,
Carry on wifeys & gents!
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